Author: myspiritualfriend

Apologies for the long break.

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cropped-shutterstock_139374812.jpgAfter a long break, I am back. Full disclosure, another blogger nominated me for a Liebster award. In accepting the nomination you are then asked to nominate 10 other bloggers you like, that have less than 400 followers.

First, I was floored that someone would nominate me. It was a huge compliment and not one that was taken lightly. Second… 10 BLOGGERS! Yikes. That is a lot of research for a stay at home mommy of a 4 and 2 year old. So, when I finally have 10 bloggers with less than 400 followers I will post my Liebster award. Until that happens, I will begin to write again.

Intro to Consciously Creating the Life You Want

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Something I am very fond of, and finding my way back to, is consciously creating the life I want using The Law of Attraction (LOA from here on.) LOA basically says, like attracts like. In other words, the thoughts and feelings you have will create the life you will have. Think positive, get positive. Think negative, get negative.

How so? Well, if I am in the constant mind-set of thinking “I want, I need, or I wish I had” I am intentionally focusing on the lack there of, and therefore, I will not be attracting those things.

What are the tips and tricks I use to make LOA work for me? FIrst, I figure out what it is I want. I have to be clear on this, if I am wishy-washy, it will be harder to create, I become frustrated and give up very quickly. Second, I make a vision board or gratitude list. If it is a board, I look at it daily. If it is a list, I read it and make it a mantra. I imagine that I can feel what it would be like to already have those things. Next I use visualization. I sit quietly and picture myself surrounded by the things I want. I use the term “things” loosely. Things can be people, job, house, love, adventures, state of being, financial abundance, really anything.

Also, don’t worry about “how” you are going to get the things you want. Let the Universe take care of the “how,” you focus on the “what.”

Last week I talked about gratitude and shifting energy. This is where gratitude will be handy, feel grateful as if you already have these things in your life. As you practice these techniques, you will notice your energy naturally shifting into a more positive space or it will become more apparent to you that the shift needs to occur.

Often times, when we start creating the lives we want, we notice that the people and activities that are negative and unhealthy will suddenly not be such an important part of our lives. This can be a scary idea when you are starting to create. But take heart, when you shed the negative, you leave more room for positive and wonderful things in your life.

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Gratitude and Shifting Energy

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Often times, I speak of things in terms of energy. Whether it’s my initial intuition of other people when I first meet them, “They have great energy,” “Their energy feels off to me, anxious, not really in line with mine….” I could go on. Or I speak about energy in terms of what we put out and therefore, what we attract back to us.

So, when I am speaking with others about negative energy or being in a negative space energetically and they ask how to shift that energy, my very first response is GRATITUDE. Keep in mind, when I find myself in a negative energy rut, I tell myself the same thing, be grateful. Gratitude will start to shift your energy in all ways, always.

“But everything is wrong, my life has always been hard, been a struggle, people are mean, no one appreciates me….” Again, I could go on with many more responses I have been told and told myself.

The fact is, sometimes you have to start small, be grateful that you can breathe or that the sun is out.  Every day make a list of 3 things you are grateful for, read it out loud, make it a mantra, fake a smile with it if you have to. Eventually, the list will get easier to make, more significant and you will start seeing the beauty in your life instead of focusing on the muck. Eventually that fake smile will become a genuine smile. Eventually you will see the things around you change. Sometimes it means negative people stop wanting to be around you, however you start attracting more positive people and events in your life. People often times will approach you differently and react to you in a better more positive way.

The trick is, don’t give up too soon. If you have been in a negative space for a long time, give yourself time to see the fruit bloom, so to speak. This isn’t something that will change overnight, when you have lived with a certain mindset about life and the world, it takes time to really change that belief and see those results. But when you do, even if it is a small glimmer of change, make sure you acknowledge it, be grateful for the small changes, because all of the small changes will add up to a big change overall.

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Assisting Loved Ones in Crossing Over

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Yesterday I had a very busy morning with Spirit. Two young men, connected to people I know, made their transition to the spirit world. On earth we would call their death untimely or “too soon,” but the reality is, we all cross at the exact right time, just as we are born at the correct time.

Both of these souls crossed for very different reasons, one from overdose, and the other from a car crash. Both unexpected and both very painful for the ones left behind.  I have found there are very different messages shared by those that cross, but there is a resonating theme amongst various forms of crossing. When someone crosses for some reason other than “their own doing,” there are usually instant messages of joy and reassurance that they are okay. When a soul crosses because of something “they did,” whether that be suicide or overdose, they often times don’t feel they are allowed to cross into the light. There is remorse, guilt, and a sense of unworthiness.

Why would they feel they can’t cross into the light? Because there are some religious and personal beliefs that we inflict on ourselves that say we aren’t deserving of Divine Love because we did “bad” things or were “bad” people. Most religions teach that God (or whatever name you give this higher power) is LOVE. And after years of giving messages from loved ones, guides, and even Angels, there is nothing but unending amounts of love on the other side. It is often easy for us in the human body to be angry at those that cross by their own doing, calling it selfish. But really, I have found these souls to be the most in need of our love.

What can we do to help them cross? Most importantly, remember to send them love and healing. Their souls are in desperate need for both of those things. Let them know that they are deserving of the love on the other side, as is everyone. Forgive them, for they were so lost they couldn’t see how much others loved them here and wanted them to succeed. Forgive yourself, because it wasn’t your job to save them. In doing these things, your loved one will cross into the light and know the true Divine Love from which we are all created.

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